Is Patriarchy the cause or the cure of social ills?

REAL SOLUTIONS ARE REJECTED IN FAVOR OF POLITICALLY CORRECT DELUSIONS

ATTACKS ON THE FAMILY STRUCTURE HAVE BEEN ONGOING FOR DECADES

Patriarchy, " a system of society or government in which the father or eldest male is head of the family and descent is traced through the male line."

In recent years we have seen and heard a growing chorus of those who label patriarchy. I grew up in a time of, I will call it modern patriarchy, it was a time when fathers were respected for their role in providing for and guiding their family. There were of course some that were better than others, it is a very difficult job being a father. Likewise being a mother, maybe even a more difficult role if truly engaged in.

We now see this as an idea that is considered antiquated, fathers are no longer an essential part of a family, in fact they are mostly chastised as being rigid, authoritarians. All family structures are now considered equal in value, even same sex partners raising children.

This assault on this family structure began in the 1960's . Much of it had to do with mothers beginning to work out of the home and becoming financially independent. Financial dependence often kept many families together through the rocky and difficult periods of family life. There was also a coordinated effort to lower the respect for fathers. Hollywood mostly portrayed fathers as stupid and out of touch with the realities of the modern family.

One of the biggest incentives to be a responsible father is respect. While we understand that respect has to be earned, it is often latter in life that we realize the value of our fathers.  Children need guidance, some more than others. They need to be taught respect, this is mostly taught through discipline. Fathers are most qualified to install respect through discipline. Children who do not learn about discipline will likely grow undisciplined in their personal behavior. Such a trait will likely have a bad result for them personally, for their future family and for society. It is about learning about consequences and needs to be learned at an early age.

While some women have the ability to teach their children discipline and consequences, most do not, especially if they did not learn it from their fathers at an early age. Women tend to lean toward the philosophy of unconditional love. This may be a biological or a genetic trait that can moderate the discipline traits of fathers. Two parents are better then one, one a male and one a female.

Today in the majority of families the women has much more authority in the realm of discipline, often to the point that there is none. Everything is good, everything is praise, no consequences. this is of course not the case for everyone, there are women in single family households who have done great jobs under a handicapped situation.

If fathers are considered only valuable for their financial support, they will be less likely to fulfill their responsibility as fathers. Possibly spending their thoughts and time on other matter like watching football, working and possibly tuning out.  In the black community it is often pointed out that mothers with dependent children can earn more divorced or unmarried than married. Many family situations feel that they are better off with child support and alimony and be rid of the father influence.

The father being the head of the household was likely an evolutionary structure that was needed for survival. It was embraced by all religions as the fundamental building block of society. In today's modern society many believe survival is ensured by government programs or legal requirements, but government programs and legal requirements cannot replace a respected father.